3 Cost-Free Ways to Spice Up Your “Holiday Sexy”

by Jamie Azar, Certified Relationship and Intimacy Coach

Regardless of all the pressure materialism creates around the holidays, most of us recognize the true value in simply spending time with people we care about or enjoying uninterrupted time with ourselves. Additionally, though gifts can be great, who also doesn’t love a little pleasure, sensuality, and intentional sexy time? Whether you’re single, in a relationship, dating, monogamous or non-monogamous, here are 3 cost-free ways to spice up your holiday, for you or for that special someone(s).

1. Strike a Pose! 

Have you ever experienced a boudoir shoot? You don’t need to go anywhere, and it doesn’t necessarily have to be extravagant, though it can be whatever you want! Why not create a sultry holiday scene, or something dark and moody? Put on something you don’t wear often. It doesn’t have to be something “traditionally” sexy, like lingerie, or boxers, or thongs. Go through what you already have. Put on some music, adjust the lighting, and perform any rituals that will help to get you into a playful or erotic mood.

Play around with different poses. Laugh out loud. Touch and hug yourself. Will you incorporate some sweet treats or warm drinks? Will you invent a character? Give yourself permission to do whatever feels good. You can always try a few different scenes or backgrounds in your home, or play around with AI assisted tools, and fun filters. These photos could be for you, for a partner or spouse, for someone in the future, or memorabilia you frame and put in your own bedroom. Perhaps this becomes an erotic tradition. Here are some playful captions that might inspire ideas. Permission to get as cheesy, goofy, playful, or as naughty as you like:

✨”Don’t make me text Santa…”

✨”I heard you’re on the naughty list…”

✨ “Naughty or Nice?”

✨”Happy Holidays from Your Sexy Santa…”

2. Craft an Erotica or Romance Story 

Check out Theo, for some inspiration and or use their ai-assisted tools to craft and publish your erotica or romance story. Why not imagine the story of a winter wonderland romance, secret Santa seduction, or turn up the holiday heat with a naughty Christmas list. See where your mind takes you, and allow a story to unfold from your creative or even subconscious desires. Consider sharing this on the aforementioned platform, or with a partner, spouse, or pal. Here are some ideas for some erotic and/or romantic scenarios to jumpstart your imagination:

Winter Wonderland Romance – A polycule finds themselves snowed in at a cozy cabin, where they rediscover their passion for play while being cut off from the outside world. 

Secret Santa Seduction – A holiday office party takes a spicy turn when a group of colleagues participate in a Secret Santa gift exchange that leads to an unexpected, steamy rendezvous in the back.

Is it getting hot in here?

3. Plan A Shared Adventure

Plan a shared adventure with a friend(s), or partner(s). You could gift a homemade coupon as an invitation to a meet and greet, a hike, or as an invite to a new coffee spot. Offer a few dates and schedule something on the calendar. Planning intentional time for community and social connection can be nourishing, rejuvenating, and stimulating, not to mention great friendships and partnerships can emerge.  Document the experience with at least one photo to look back on. 

You can engage with these ideas no matter your relationship status. The importance behind this is prioritizing our relationship with ourselves, our bodies, and our pleasure. We are erotic, sexy beings, yet sometimes, we need some motivation or an intentional pause or context to unveil our inner desire. Intentionality, creativity, and playfulness can be tools to pleasure, not to mention a fun new way to experience the holidays. Do any of these sound fun to you? Have an idea of your own? We’d love to hear it! Drop a comment on this post on our Substack, or on our Instagram!