Vaginal wetness is a confusing thing. If you’re “too dry,” you need lube. If you’re “too wet,” then maybe you don’t need lube after all. But maybe you do. Or maybe your partner does! It can be tough to know whether you need lube for sex or not.
I mean, can the vulva ever get a break? Off the top of my head, here are a few of the myths about vulvas that come to mind: Vaginas smell like fish, vulvas are ugly, vulvas have gross discharge, and vaginas are generally just disgusting. This is only a partial list, but it does offer some depressing insight into how our culture views the vulva. If you have a vulva, it’s unlikely these widely held beliefs haven’t impacted your mental health and well-being.
The Importance of Vaginal Wetness in Sex (and Beyond)
And lubrication is much more than a response to arousal. The vagina is powerful and is constantly doing what it needs to do to stay healthy. Daily vaginal wetness is “the body’s mechanism—similar to saliva, body odor, and other bodily functions—[that] serves many purposes,” Moushumi Ghose (she/her), MFT, licensed sex therapist, tells TheBody.
It’s perfectly normal to be completely comfortable with your body and the way it works. Some vaginas get very wet, some don’t. They are all wonderful. Let’s try to internalize this positivity and replace the old messaging that tries to paint us as ‘less than.’
Read the article below to learn more.
Caitlin Oates
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Doubling as LAST’s practice manager and intake coordinator, Caitlin is a writer and creative with a passion for sex-positivity, LGBTQIA advocacy, and mental health care.
Caitlin earned her bachelor’s degree in communications from Northwestern University, and now flexes those communication muscles by teaching medical students humanism skills, coaching athletes in functional fitness, and learning from and working with LAST to promote, amplify, and normalize the importance of sexual and mental health.